What an extraordinary time in history we all are living through right now.
I personally moved from so many states in these last few weeks - fear, of course, frustration, that I can't see my friends and go places, which felt so normal before and now the new normal is zoom and facetime meetings, state of apathy and finally surrender and gratitude.
I have a client, who came to me initially to work on his intimacy with his long term partner.
Successful in business, but deeply unhappy in his marriage.
We did an initial intro session, but he did not sign up to work with me. He wanted to talk to his partner first to get her consent as well.
Read MoreHave you ever heard of semen retention?
What that is? Well, it is a practice of conscious non-ejaculation. It doesn't mean you cannot masturbate or have sex. It means you do all of that & choose not to ejaculate at the end. I did not say - not to orgasm, I said - not to ejaculate. Because orgasming & ejaculating are two separate processes that were merged together once a man became of sexual age.
In a session with a client:
Client: “You may criticize my career choice, the way I dress, the way I speak.
But you can’t criticize how much I earn or my sex, and my ability to give pleasure'“.
This client came to me with a PE (Premature Ejaculation) issue. He's been experiencing it for about 5 years. He isn't enthusiastic about having sex with his wife because sex became an obligation or a job for him. He doesn’t associate it with fun and pleasure.
Read MoreHave you ever found yourself being in a perpetual state of gratitude? Even if it happens for a day or may be a few hours? How does it feel like in your body?
I have found myself being in this state for the last few weeks (after I had that epic full body orgasm during my work out class, hehe).
I prescribe custom Holistic Self-Pleasure practices for my clients.
What’s that? Well, this is a totally new way of how you approach masturbation. Because I strongly believe that how we self-pleasure, & by extension how we make love, affects how we love, how we relate to other people, how we show up on dates & in a relationship, & how we feel inside our bodies.
“I am so busy, I haven’t had energy to even think about sex magic practice.” - words I hear from one of my clients today.
Oh, I totally understand. I am going into this space myself. I am so busy trying to create my business & juggle a million things, that the very actual thing I preach, I don’t do myself.
And there are times I feel guilty & irresponsible to dedicate time for self-pleasure, when I know that there are tons of things to do on my list. Have you ever found yourself in this place?
One time when I was at ecstatic dance I had a full body energy orgasm in the hands of a man.
I go to ecstatic dance in NYC often & I absolutely love how the magical rhythm of the beat makes my body feel & move. There are no rules in ecstatic dance. I let my head rest & my body takes over the process. It's so liberating. It's a play.