You’re with your woman, she’s doing all the things that usually turn you on, but you simply can’t get your penis to work.
You try to deflect by going back to “foreplay” and doubling down on pleasuring her, but you both know that you're just buying time and frantically trying to make an erection happen. These “performance issues” are no longer an exceptional occurrence, and you worry that she thinks that you’re no longer attracted to her.
Sex used to be fun and something you looked forward to, but now it’s this huge source of anxiety.
It has become a chore on your “to-do” list (you might even prefer taking out the trash over taking your woman between the sheets), or this big exhausting topic between you and your partner. You want to feel closer to the woman in your life and you want to be the lover she desires, but most days, if you’re honest, it’s just simpler to avoid connection and masturbate to porn as a way to satisfy your sexual needs.
Learn to master your sexuality in a way that is unique to you!
Be in control of your sexual experience and never worry about your ability to perform again.
There is an unspoken expectation that a man is supposed to just know how to confidently court and guide a woman in the bedroom, but no one actually teaches you how to do that.
You might have read some books, you might have taken some notes from porn, but you’re still confused about your masculine nature and how you are supposed to use that to confidently lead in a way that feels authentic to you - and pleasurable for your partner.
Porn won’t teach you how to be a Sex God…
Porn teaches you that the most important thing you need for great sex is a hard penis and that five minutes of penetration will send a woman into orgasmic bliss.
If this advice isn’t serving you well, and the sex you’ve been having hasn’t noticeably improved since those awkward, fumbling first times as a teenager - there’s nothing wrong with you.
Sexuality is one of the most important areas of our lives that we get the least amount of support with. This is especially true for men. Yet, you’re expected to simply know how to please a woman, be really good at it and last for hours.
And if you don’t? You’re simply left to figure it out by yourself with whatever help you can get (which is usually porn).
The good news: Being a fantastic lover, having satisfying sex, and overcoming sexual challenges ARE skills that you can learn. You just need a better teacher.
TESTIMONIALS
“Iryna has completely changed my life. I sought her out after struggling with sexual dysfunction issues that were ruining my relationship with my partner.
I was losing sleep, felt depressed, scared, dejected, and unmanly. I tried everything to fix my problem from psychiatry, hypnotherapy, took libido enhancing medications, etc. and nothing was working.
I began avoiding sex with my partner and started to resent the whole experience. Thankfully I met Iryna just in time and she helped me reprogram my whole outlook on sex, pleasure and intimacy. I am now enjoying the best sex I’ve ever had with my partner and am able to feel sensations I never thought were possible throughout my body during love making.”
IT’S REALLY NOT ABOUT PERFORMANCE
When your body isn’t working the way you want it to, it’s easy to think that your problem is performance.
There is this idea that there’s something wrong with you if you don’t desire sex, or if you have trouble functioning like a machine.
When your body isn’t working the way you want it to, it’s easy to think that your problem is performance.
And so you start taking some viagra or other pills to increase your lasting power (or even just to get your penis going), or you scour books and magazines for any new techniques and skills that will help you feel less inadequate as a lover.
But nothing really seems to solve the problem or work long term.
That’s because your problem isn’t performance, it’s a lack of bodily awareness and the way you use your conscious attention.
Truth be told, you don’t need more skill or better technique.
Being a great lover or having satisfying sexual experiences is not about performance but about learning to be more attuned to your body, connected to your inner self, your masculine impulses, and reclaiming your unique masculine nature.
And that is what you are going to learn in this course.
You need a deep holistic understanding of your own system and senses while you exchange intimacy with your partner.
PRESENCE OVER PERFORMANCE
This course is designed to help you…
…let go of shame, sexual hang-ups, and any harmful conditioning that is causing you to feel inadequate as a lover and a man.
…reclaim your innate masculine power and irresistible male charisma that will drive your woman wild!
EXPERIENCE A SAFE, PRIVATE AND NON-JUDGMENTAL SPACE
Men have very few spaces where they can learn how to improve their experience of their sexuality safely and without being judged or ridiculed. This course will provide a safe, private, and non-judgmental container for you to face what might feel like your deepest inadequacies - things you’ve never admitted to anyone, maybe not even to yourself - and finally give you the answers to your most burning questions.
THE PROVEN PROCESS THAT WILL CONNECT YOU TO YOUR UNIQUE SEXUALITY
Instead of being consumed by anxiety around sexual inadequacy, you will thrive thanks to my proven process that will help you reconnect with your unique flavor of masculinity and feel powerful not only in the bedroom, but in the boardroom as well. You will be surprised by the kind of man you uncover just 10 short weeks from now!
CONTROL YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY AND EXUDE CONFIDENCE
With the guidance of this course you will ease yourself out of draining and numbing patterns and learn how to exude the kind of confidence and vitality that comes from an embodied place - where control over your sexual energy is not a theory, but something you always have access to naturally.
THE 5 SEX TOOLS PORN WON’T TEACH YOU
Finally learn the holistic sex tools that will actually help you overcome the sexual challenges that have been putting a strain on your relationship with yourself and the woman in your life (and they’re not the kind of skills you can pick up surfing the internet).
TAKE YOUR PARTNER AND YOURSELF TO BLISSFUL STATES
This is where you last as long as YOU want to and get to be in control of your erections so that you can take yourself and your partner to blissful states and give her the real ‘out of this world’ sex she’s been dreaming of.
BE THE BEST LOVER SHE HAS EVER HAD
Men often return to me after practicing the core methods I teach and tell me that their wives and girlfriends are starting to call them “Sex Gods”, or exclaim that sex with them has been the best they’ve ever had. (Have you read the testimonials on this page? ;) )
These are the changes that are possible when you really honor the intelligence of your genitals and your body and learn how to communicate that experience with your partner.
TESTIMONIALS
“As a man, it is very uncomfortable to be vulnerable about insecurity regarding your sexuality or lack thereof. It takes courage and most of all, a safe place in which you can share your most shameful of struggles and experiences. Iryna was that safe place throughout my process, always showing love and acceptance, regardless of the darkness that was displayed in my heart.
I am so grateful for the work I did with Iryna and for the space and the healing she enabled me to enjoy.”
Reaching new sexual heights will likely involve a flaccid penis.
Solving your sexual challenges and commanding the sexual prowess you desire might be harder than swallowing a pill, but it’s also easier than you think.
Most men are not taught how to be in touch with or sit with their emotions, and reconnecting with that often repressed part of yourself can be an overwhelming experience. Especially if you have been struggling with porn addiction and you need intense visual stimuli to achieve an orgasm or any kind of sexual pleasure.
At first you might feel desensitized and numb and it will be hard to engage with your body or your partner without the help of visuals and fantasies. Most men try to logic their way into understanding how to feel their body and connecting to their senses, but, as much as you would like to, you can’t problem-solve your way to what you want with the mind - you have to feel your way there with your body.
And this process might initially require you to sit with a flaccid penis.
But when you learn to let that be OK?
That’s when the magic happens.
THE COURSE IN DETAIL
Presence over Performance: A 10-week course for men.
This is a 10-week, self-paced course with 5 modules. Each module lasts two weeks and consists of an educational video and supporting practices and assignments.
Your first module and home assignments will be available as soon as you purchase, so you can get started immediately. You can move through all modules in your own timing, though we suggest you stick to the outlined schedule for optimum results.
You get lifetime access.
Though 10 weeks will be all you need. Still, you can return to the practices as often as you like, challenging yourself to further enhance your sexual mastery as much as you desire.
Please your partner with pussy massage.
On top of the sexual mastery you’ll develop through the exercises, practices, and bonus materials.
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Module 1 | Unwind from Sexual Conditioning
In this module you’re invited to explore your current sexual narrative - and then create your own that will serve you. Examine what influence society, media, porn, religion, parents, and women have had on how you show up sexually. Release what doesn’t feel true and recreate the sexual narrative you desire to live now. This is your space to rediscover your needs and desires and truly own them.
Module 2 | The Tools of a Conscious and Confident Lover
Learn the 5 holistic sex tools that you will be mastering throughout the course in meditations, breathing exercises, and self-pleasure practices. These skills will become second nature for you, effortlessly making you a powerful man in the bedroom that she can’t resist.
Module 3 | Heal Shame and Anxiety Related to Sexual Performance
Feeling shame around your ability to perform and be a good lover is the worst nightmare of any man. But until you face it, it will have a grip on you forever. In this module you will be offered a process of meeting this shame or anxiety with loving kindness and be liberated from it for good.
Module 4 | Holistic Self-Pleasure Practices for Men
Learn holistic self-pleasure practices and meditations for men who experience ED and PE. You will delve deeper into a conscious masturbation practice, which will help you reprogram how you view masturbation, your relationship to your body, and sex with her. And that is essential: You can’t make love to another, if you can’t make love to yourself.
Module 5 | Sexuality and Your Relationship
The way you navigate your relationship has a huge impact on how you show up sexually. You will learn how to lead your partner in communication tools and practices that will open her up to you, and to greater pleasure and orgasmic bliss. (I'll also be sharing some female secrets any man should know).
MEET YOUR SEXUALITY AND INTIMACY COACH
Iryna Sulim
In the modern society we live in, with an awareness of the “divine feminine” rising and awakening, there is also an urgent need for redefining true masculinity and what it means to be a man.
My innate curiosity for the depth of a human soul, my personal spiritual and sexual healing journey through Tantra, and trustworthy relationships with the men in my life led me to my true calling: helping men to connect back to their authentic selves, their freedom, consciousness and power through healing their sexuality.
Having studied various energy healing modalities, tantric yoga and dominance/submission (D/S) with known leaders in the field like Chris Bale, Sasha Cobra, Lynda Caesara, Layla Martin, Charles Muir (Tantra Yoga) and Om Rupani (D/S), I have spent over six years learning about male sexuality and helping more than a hundred men identify their true desires and needs around sexuality, heal their sexual wounding, and become the best lovers they can be.
I believe I have a true gift for holding a safe and empowering space for men. My mission is to guide men in mastering the tools necessary for a deeper, more powerful, more intimate and more pleasurable relationship to themselves and to their lover.
In my experience of having worked with men for over six years, 80% of men are struggling with similar challenges around sexuality and intimacy.
They say things like:
"I can’t last long in bed, I have performance anxiety and either come too fast or can't maintain my erection for more than 5-10 minutes. And sex isn’t as fulfilling any more."
"I can’t climax during intercourse, only during masturbation. It’s embarrassing and I avoid intimacy with my partner.”
"Intimacy with my partner isn’t as it used to be, sexual desire and tension is no longer there and sex is mechanical."
"I have strong anxiety, overwhelmed by unpleasant thoughts and emotions. At times it goes to the point of depression. To get rid of it, I masturbate 2-3 times a day and than feel shame for doing so.”
“I’m constantly distracted by sexual urges and thoughts. I can’t keep my focus at work or on my new projects. I constantly watch porn and masturbate to it and then it messes up my energy level.”
Your sexual energy and how you’re able to show up during sex impacts your whole life.
Ready to return sex to being the rocket fuel it’s meant to be for you?
PRESENCE OVER PERFORMANCE
A 10-week course designed to help you heal performance anxiety and be the confident, powerful and present lover she deeply longs for in the bedroom.
TESTIMONIALS
“I am blown away that a woman who I have never met in person, who has guided me and taught me things I never knew existed, has taken me to the highest levels of ecstasy - at least 10 times higher than what I have ever experienced before in my life.
What’s more, I feel like a whole person for the first time ever in my life, thanks to you. And for you to teach me how to channel that energy is priceless!! All of this in a matter of weeks while the world is falling apart around me!
Thank you, thank you so much!!
You are a gift in my life that keeps on giving. I can’t wait to see what’s on the horizon. With much love and gratitude!”
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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> Who is this course for?
- This course is for men who are struggling with sexual challenges and want to know how to overcome them.
- This course is for men who are open-minded and curious and want to really know how to be a better lover.
- This course is for men who understand that sex is not just dry techniques, but it is an art form.
- It is both for men who are single or in partnerships of any kind.
- This course is for men who are courageous enough to take on the challenge of doing the work.
> Who is this course NOT for?
- This is not for you if you are only interested in a quick pill fix.
- This is not for you if you're unwilling to try something new to get a new result.
- This is not for you if you can't commit to doing the practices that will lead to the sexual mastery you desire.
- This is not for you if you have deep sexual trauma that you haven't previously faced and worked with.
> Are there any requirements for the course?
During the 10 week period it is required that you stay away from porn completely so your nervous system can build new wiring. You are also asked to stop taking any viagra/cialis if self-prescribed.
> Do I need to have experience with yoga, meditation, breathwork etc., to do this course?
While it's beneficial if you do, this is not required. All you need is an open, curious mind and the willingness to experiment with and apply what you learn.
> How soon will I start noticing results?
It depends on how consistent you are with the practices, and also on your body’s individual capacity to develop deep awareness and sensitivity. This course will not bring you overnight success, but you can expect to notice differences within the first four weeks.
> Is this course for all men? What if I'm gay?
I mostly work with heterosexual men, but the holistic principles I teach apply to all cock-owning humans, and will benefit you no matter the genders of your preferred partners. Please be aware that the languaging of the course refers to heterosexual partnerships and the modules include some practices specifically to use with women.
> How much time do I need to dedicate to the practices?
You will need to invest a minimum of 20 min, max 45 min, 3-5 days a week.
> How will I know if I'm doing the right thing in the practice? What if I don’t feel that sexual energy circulating though my body?
Follow the guidance in the recordings I share and keep up with the practices. If you haven’t done these inner meditative practices before, it may take you some time to really feel the shift.Trust that you’re doing it right. Consistency and commitment is the key.
> Do I need to be ejaculating all the time when I'm doing self pleasure?
No, I recommend you develop your own schedule of ejaculatory choice. For example, if you are doing the practice 5 times a week, I recommend you ejaculate once out of five. And if you have sex with your partner, I invite you to practice the same - consciously choose when you ejaculate, and don’t ejaculate every time.
> I have had some sexual trauma in the past. Will this course help me heal my trauma?
No. If you have experienced severe sexual trauma, I recommend that you see a trauma awareness sex therapist. However, the course will assist you in deep body awareness, which is very helpful for someone who has sexual trauma.
> Is there any post-course support? How can I continue working with you?
There is! If you want to keep your momentum going, you can do so in my exclusive men’s mastermind group:
Join the Gentlemen’s Club: A safe space to share about sex, and continue to grow. Only for graduates of my courses.
What you get:
Two live calls each month with me and your fellow Gentlemen
- Live guided embodiment practice | Keep your practice fresh, fun and alive
- Live teaching & hot seat coaching | Sit in the fire and forge yourself into ever-more advanced mastery
- Live access to me | Get all your spicy or vulnerable questions answered
- Safe sharing of wins and challenges | Celebrate and learn in community
- 75 mins call length | Held via Zoom
On-going support via our private Telegram group
- Safe sharing of your wins and challenges any time you want to brag or need support
- Extra resources shared by me
- Ask questions as they arise
- Benefit from the hive mind: Get input from fellow men on the path - and get the feminine perspective from me!
- Call recordings
Your commitment
- $99/month, paid monthly, recurring on the day you sign up OR $1188/year
- One year commitment (twelve payments OR one total advance payment)
- Continue month to month after one year or renew for another year
- Cancel anytime after completing your one year commitment
- Calls are recorded and posted in the Telegram group - but I encourage you to show up live as much as you can to receive hot seat coaching and get the greatest benefit!
Don’t miss this rare opportunity to have on-demand access to my expert guidance and receive live coaching from me on love, sex, and relationship for only $99/month!
Unlock access to the Gentlemen’s Club at the end of your course.
> What is your refund policy?
Due to the nature of this course, refunds are not possible. Considering this, I ask you to buy mindfully. Please note that you get lifetime access upon purchase, so if something comes up that prevents you from participating, you can choose to move through the 10 weeks at a later time.
