Your Honesty Protects Her Heart
Hey there,
My client has had a profound paradigm shift when I told him that women don't need to be saved. That women are mature sovereign beings and can handle the hard truth. .
As a woman, I would much rather hear a clear and honest "You know, I am loving our connection and you are awesome, but at this point in my life I am only looking for casual intimate experiences with no commitment. If that is aligned with you, I will be thrilled to explore that with you. What do you feel?"
Ah, this is so refreshing to hear and also, to be completely truthful, sexy. Honesty is sexy. This truth offers me a choice. I can pause and tap into my own truth. What is important to me right now? Am I looking just to have some casual fun and exploration or am I dating for marriage? On some level, we all know it in our hearts what is true.
That is called protecting a woman's heart, which is what all men always intend for. Men do not want to hurt us by any means. But men, not knowing what is true for them, what vision they hold, end up being guided by ego or sexual drive, and as a result being vague, unclear, and deceptive. Most often it is unconscious. Being led and consumed by too much of sexual urge that a man can't hold creates a fog, and he can't think straight.
There is no blame here, by the way. We (both men and women) are not taught to trust ourselves, or value our true intentions and reveal them honestly without fear of being judged or shamed.
Honesty requires knowing yourself fully. It requires maturity. And that is not where most of us are at even in our 40s.
And also, men are not taught relational skills either. So saying something along the line of the message above is unnatural and awkward for them.
That is why that young man, my client, who has had a paradigm shift came to me for support. He feels the intuitive hits that there is another way of relating, another way of communicating and another way of having sex when he feels empowered, fulfilled and honored, instead of shameful or anxious.
Can you imagine dating a woman and being fully in integrity with your desires and needs and sharing that with her openly and confidently with zero pleasing of her? Integrity is so hot! Women will want to be with you, have sex with you, date you more. Why? Because integrity creates trust.
If you want to really up-level your communication skills with women, learn how to be in alignment with your true needs and desires and share them with confidence, exuding the energy of a powerful leader who knows what he is doing in the bedroom, come work with me. I have supported countless men on their journeys of sexual and relational awakening.
Book a FREE 30 min consultation at the link below and we will discuss how I can best support you and what offer of mine will fit your needs most.
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Much love and gratitude,
Iryna