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Hey there,


I wanted to share something with you today that made me feel deeply sad. It arose in me today when I was listening to the book "Stolen Focus". I highly recommend looking into it. 


Humans are losing their innate ability for depth, cultivating inner wisdom and reflection.


We are so oversaturated with information and external solutions, looking for that other person, guru, coach, or resource to solve for us what we can naturally solve ourselves by tapping into the intelligence of our own bodies, that we have become superficial and very disembodied in all areas of our lives. 


In moderation, support and resources are good, but in our day and age, we are utterly overwhelmed with what we receive daily without giving our systems to process and integrate. 


It is especially visible in relationships and intimacy. These aspects of our lives require awareness, feeling, presence, energetic attunement, and embodiment. All of that demands spaciousness, time, and slowing down—the opposite of how we live our lives. 


The other day, I talked to a potential client (a 20-year-old man who has strong performance anxiety) who wanted a quick fix to his problem. When I told him that in our sessions, we would be focusing on awareness and attention-cultivating practices, and his homework would consist of mindful masturbation sessions (i.e., spending time with his own body), I saw that he lost me there, his attention went someplace else, there was a dismissal in his look. 


He didn't end up being my client. And that is ok. But this example, including so many more I encounter daily, made me sad. Sad not because I lost a potential client but because of where we as humans are moving towards - a highly distracted and disembodied society with an invisible leash on our necks, being controlled and manipulated into losing the most invaluable currency we all have - our attention and as a result - our energy. Humans who are constantly wanting a quick solution, a magic pill, without the painful process of going through uncomfortable feelings. 


And, while that is the epidemic we all are in right now, there are antidotes to it. Similar to when a new illness is discovered, a cure is always created. Many resources promote themselves in support of honing your attention—coaches, gurus, meditation apps, silent retreats, etc. 


And it is really amazing that we have all of that, and there are so many choices. Experts are needed. We just have to cultivate discernment in choosing the right one and not fall into the trap of perpetual consumption of that external support.


Once again, the best decisions about how to live life, how to make love, and how to do relationship, are made from a place of inner knowing, trusting body intelligence, and guidance that is our feelings and emotions. 


I teach this to all my male clients, and I am immensely grateful for your trust in my guidance. For 1:1 support, I offer free 30-minute consultations. You can book here: https://calendly.com/iryna-sulim/30min

Additionally, if you’re struggling with performance anxiety, I offer a free training that’s helped many men regain confidence. Sign up here: https://www.irynasulim.com/free-training-performance-anxiety

Much love and gratitude,

Iryna