Why Your Woman Lost Desire for You
Hey there
To begin this message, I'd like to preface right from the start - this topic of desire for women is so not black and white. And the reasons I am offering below are just some that you, as a man, may begin reflecting on and correcting if needed. However, each situation and relationship dynamic is very unique. And what is true for one couple may not be true for another. So, take what resonates with you from this message and leave the rest.
Overall, I deeply hope that your love life by now, because you are here on my blog and reading all the little nuggets of wisdom and implementing them, is potent, deep, and thriving. And if it's not, you have a POWER to change it.
So, if you ever wondered where this sexy spark went away between you and your woman, why there is not as much intimacy as it used to be, and why you lost your consistent erections and desire dwindled for both of you, I can offer you some of the reasons why.
Most of the erotic energy in partnership is generated from a woman, how she feels in her body, how much she loves herself, and how safe she feels with you. If she feels protected, connected to you, secure, she feels your leadership - she is more in her softness and feminine effulgent feel-good state.
If this doesn't exist for her, her heart will be closed, and so is her sex. Part of it she is responsible for, and part - you!
When your woman doesn’t desire you... your p€nis may not be rock hard, and you may not be lasting during s€x as long as you want...
HER DESIRE FOR YOU BEGINS FROM HOW YOU SHOW UP IN RELATIONSHIP
Natural bodily desire (because sometimes it can be a fabricated one that women think they must have to please you) for you sparks up in a woman when you are:
* LEADING the relationship
* you are PRESENT with her when you are with her (i.e., give your attention to her, not distracted by work, phone, fantasies, etc, your own fears and doubts)
* you don’t get hooked on her emotional baits (diffuse it with humor or walk away, giving her space to process them by herself)
* have clear BOUNDARIES
* adhere to YOUR TRUTH all the time and communicate it to her with LOVE
* you have an exciting life of your own
Well, if you checked all the boxes and she still doesn’t have that desire for you.... she isn’t capable of receiving you! And that’s not for you to fix. Move on, or if you are so inclined, help her get there.
Truth be told, it’s not that black and white, as I already mentioned above.
Each party in a relationship must do their healing, attending to their old wounds and patterns, and communicate that to the other.
Since I help men, I’m inviting and encouraging you to DO YOU first and clean up your side of the street.
The online program I invite you to for men, “Presence over Performance,” is addressing not only all your sexual challenges and helps you to gain confidence back, but it goes so much deeper into the root of how you show up in the bedroom and relationship and how this impacts your s€x life. Because all of it is tightly connected.
It has five modules containing teaching materials and all my potent self-pleasure practices and meditations on helping you, gentlemen, to connect deeper to your body, heal performance anxiety, and be a masterful lover in the bedroom. Module 5 has Pussy and Cock Massage practices that you and your partner can have fun learning from and introducing into your lovemaking sessions.
So, if you are struggling with PE, ED, being present in the bedroom, and needing more confidence - this offer is golden for you.
"Presence over Performance"
Much love and gratitude,
Iryna