When you aren't Attached to the Outcome, Magic Happens

Hey there, 

We all love orgasms! I sure LOVE them! They are delicious, sparkly, rainbowy magical sensations we get to feel when we masturbate or have sex. The majority of us, for the most part, have sex because we get to have this pleasant release at the end of lovemaking. We move towards it, position our bodies in lovemaking to move towards it, and touch and stroke whether ourselves or our beloveds so that we or they orgasm. We seek completion in these 5 seconds of oblivion, 5 seconds of "little death," 5 seconds of emptiness. We train our nervous systems to reach this end goal, both men and women. 
 

And there is nothing wrong with driving yourself to an orgasm and celebrating yourself in this. 

But there still always be a feeling of something missing lingering somewhere deep down inside, a feeling that there is something much more to sex than just a 5-second orgasm. 

Some of you may not even question yourself with this. And most of you I hope, really get what I am trying to say here. 

I am inviting you here to explore a different way of completely saying goodbye to orgasms and instead deciding to focus on a moment-to-moment pleasure or perhaps not even pleasure but whatever sensation or experience will be present moment to moment. 

I invite you to engulf yourself in the experience of pure presence, trust, and curiosity. 

Shift your mindset and allow for whatever needs to happen, to happen. And if by some miracle you will have one or two or three orgasms, so shall it be. (To tell you the truth, that is what usually ends up happening anyway, haha). And if not, you've got an opportunity to dive deeper into the intimacy with yourself and your partner and the myriads of moments filled with various sensations (not only good pleasurable ones, btw).
 

A couple I work with embraced this invitation in offering a cock and pussy massage to each other. As a result, it was such a profoundly enjoyable and fun sexual connection they hadn't had in a while. She ended up having three orgasms, and they had penetrative sex, which they didn't plan for at all. And overall, the experience was filled with newness and exciting unknowns. And it usually is when you allow yourself not to be attached to the outcome. 

Will you try this too?

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Warmly,

Iryna