WHAT BEING A DOMINANT MAN LOOKS LIKE
Hey handsome,
Maybe you’ve heard that women want a dominant man, or you read my blog post about why being a nice guy is getting you nowhere. So what does it look like to be a dominant man?
By the way, when I refer to dominant I mean benevolent dominance: leadership, confidence, direction, assertiveness, a bit of mischievousness, dangerous like a wolf or a lion, yet kind and safe (you sense that he can kill… but he won’t).
So recently I was catching up with an ex-client of mine, who is now a dear friend and a part of the community. Love him dearly and very proud of who he has become.
He shared his experience with dating, and his reflections on the Creating a Dominant Man course by Om Rupani (one of my teachers) that he recently completed.
“So I was on a dinner date and dinner was coming to an end but it didn’t feel like the date was over yet. During Covid and cold nights in NYC, you don’t have many options other than inviting a woman to your place. So I asked her if she wanted to have a drink at my place. When I said that, I noticed her body contracted. I sensed her hesitation and said with reassurance: “Please don’t worry, I don’t sleep with women on a first date, and I promise you are safe. And I also promise that I will make out with you.” She eagerly said yes. And we had a fantastic time.”
Do you see what he did?
He was respectful and also true to his desires. If she said no, he would be perfectly fine with that, too. He knows his high value and acts with high integrity. He honors his desires and has no attachment to the result.
He created safety, reassuring her that his intentions were to get to know her - and he also intrigued her by expressing his somewhat mischievous desire to make out with her...😝😉😈
I feel openness in my heart and a jolt of heat in my sex, imagining myself being in her place. My body relaxes, and an energy of playfulness and intrigue flows through me.
What comes up for you when you read this? Would love to hear your thoughts on this.
I love helping men to activate that dominant part in them. Because what men really need in order to unleash that wolf or lion is a woman's desire for such energy.
And trust me that there is a deep calling in the collective field from women for such men. I know plenty of women holding this desire. They are craving for you to lead them into surrender.
Schedule a FREE introductory call with me and learn more about the 1-on-1 coaching container and the online courses I offer.
Much love and gratitude,
Iryna