WANT A SNEAK PEEK INTO MY LOVE LIFE?
Hey handsome,
Do you want a sneak peek into my love life?
I’ve written a bit here and there about my sex/love life, but in this letter to you, I wanted to share what’s possible for YOU, if you give yourself permission and decide to live unhinged and uninhibited, fully sexually liberated and open in your heart.
When I met my boyfriend, we really connected because I was incredibly attracted to his kind and open loving heart. I felt safe. At the time, I was just coming out of processing a devastating heartbreak (obviously, I took a few months to heal).
When we started having sex, the first few times it was hot and passionate. But then when we fell deeper in love with each other, I started crying (releasing) every time we made love.
His pouring of love into me healed my wounded heart and all the residue of past hurt and pain spilled over through tears. At some point - and you might say this is crazy - I saw the face of my ex in my boyfriend. It was trippy. When I told him that, he didn’t get upset or anything. He just smiled and kissed me. He never judged me or asked me what was wrong. He loved me in those moments of vulnerability and held me with tenderness.
A few months passed, and instead of crying, I would laugh and giggle with such contagious joy that we both ended up laughing hysterically because it felt so freaking good.
Now, we make love and we go to places and spaces through it. It’s mystical, it’s divine, it’s like God is present with us in the bedroom and we are having a threesome. I often find myself motionless, deeply surrendered, spinning in cosmic realms, unable to talk or feel my body.
What has happened in our union is that we have openness and vulnerability sexually, full acceptance of our bodies and our souls. He loves so much and is seeing me so deeply that I didn’t have a choice but to release my trauma. And I felt safe, and open and sexually uninhibited, capable of receiving his presence and his love with delight.
If I hadn’t done all the de-conditioning and healing work on my own and welcomed acceptance and love for all of who I am, I wouldn't be able to hold that much presence and love that he has been pouring into me. And he wouldn't have permission to expand in his sexual capacity and to love me so deeply.
If he was withholding emotionally, I wouldn’t feel safe to go to that place of depth with him.
You see, it’s an energetic circuit that we’re always running when we are in partnership, in sexual union. Heart to sex center, sex center to heart. It’s never really about positions, toys, external aids of stimulation (i.e. fantasy), other people (other than God, haha), or even techniques.
It is about both partners coming together bared, naked literally and in their minds, stripped off the false societal believes of what it means to relate sexually with one another, willing to move through pain together, being healers and cheerleaders for each other, with openness and curiosity, and most importantly - love in their hearts.
While I’m writing this piece I find myself being present to the insight that the polarities of my partner and I may be reversed.
But hey, in life we meet people who illuminate for you what you most need. For me - that’s nurturing and openness in my heart. And thanks to this man I’m experiencing another layer of feeling myself more in my heart and more in my feminine.
Do you find my story inspiring for your own sex life?
If so, I invite you to decide to have sex with your partner differently next time. Perhaps it will start with an honest and vulnerable conversation you have with her about both of your needs and desires in sex. Practice, play with it - you are allowed to feel awkward and giggle about it. Imagine being two innocent teenagers exploring each other's bodies anew.
I'm excited to hear from you how it goes!
And in the meantime, if you're curious how you can work with me one-on-one, please feel free to schedule a 30 min discovery call at the link below.
Much love and gratitude,
Iryna