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Hey there,
About 80% of men, either clients or men in my life with whom I share my work, are struggling with similar challenges around sexuality and intimacy.
They say:
"I can’t last long in bed, I have performance anxiety and either come too fast or can't maintain my erection for more than 5-10 minutes. And sex isn’t as fulfilling any more."
"I can’t climax during intercourse, only during masturbation. It’s embarrassing and I avoid intimacy with my partner.”
"Intimacy with my partner isn’t as it used to be, sexual desire and tension are no longer there and sex is mechanical."
"I have strong anxiety, overwhelmed by unpleasant thoughts and emotions. At times it goes to the point of depression. To get rid of it, I masturbate 2-3 times a day and then feel shame for doing so.”
• “I’m constantly distracted by sexual urges and thoughts. I can’t keep my focus at work or on my new projects. I constantly watch porn and masturbate to it and that messes up my energy levels.”
Does this sound familiar?
Have you ever found yourself in those situations? And immediately thought there’s something wrong with you?
First of all, nothing is wrong with you. I can tell you from experience, working with hundreds of men for more than seven years, that most men at least once in their life have been in at least one of the above circumstances.
For men, sexual prowess and performance in the bedroom are HUGE determining factors of his CONFIDENCE and his ability to consider himself attractive to the opposite gender. I bet you agree with me on that one.
If a man isn't aware of his body, and has had years of porn education and societal conditioning around male sexual performance and “having hard ons on command”… a one time “small failure” experience can drive a man to the point of feeling insecure, inadequate and anxious. And if the thoughts of that experience keep cycling in his mind, repeating over and over, it will only result in perpetuating the problem and lead to repeat occurrences of those “failures”.
Men are sensitive to their sexuality. It’s as vulnerable for them as sharing their emotions. The thing is, our society doesn’t have many safe spaces for men to be able to share with others - whether those are male friends or professionals (i.e. sex therapists) - about their sexual experiences or sexual challenges without being laughed at or shamed. So that leaves a man to deal with sexual/emotional challenges by himself; at times lost, confused, or overly stressed out (as there is also loads of information out there that is at best unhelpful, and at worst inaccurate).
Which leads many men to just accept their unhappy and unfulfilled state as being the norm. They resign themselves to either a sexless life, being numbed out by compulsive masturbation, porn, alcohol, or anxiety medications, or they become overwhelmed by anger and frustration, leading a poor lifestyle, which eventually affects their work and their relationships.
If this is your reality right now… I can assure you that this lifestyle is NOT the norm and never was! And you totally CAN live a fulfilled, joyful, sexy life; full of ecstasy, pleasure, aliveness, being uber confident, powerful and irresistible - not only in the bedroom, but overall in all aspects of your life! And if this is something you desire, I’d love to work with you. Sign up for a free 30 min consultation here: https://calendly.com/iryna-sulim/30min
Warmly,
Iryna