PLEASURE

I asked this question of the men in my FB group - what is PLEASURE for you?! And what activities do you engage in to bring more pleasure into your lives? 

A lot of them went right away into scenarios of sexual pleasure with their partners. And that's totally cool! It’s the first place a man’s brain goes to when it comes to Pleasure. And it’s really amazing that that is so. It is a man’s nature.

Men derive huge amounts of pleasure from pleasuring a woman. Men enjoy providing more than anything. And if they can provide ecstatic experiences for their women, it’s uplifting, fulfilling & it gives so much energy back to them.

However, in a lot of cases (& that is the culture we live in, unfortunately) there is dependency, manipulation & obsession with pleasure coming from another. That can be true for both genders. But for men it’s even stronger. 

So filling yourself up as a man & knowing what activities bring you pleasure, so you can feel 💯-percent full before engaging in intimacy with a partner, is not something most men practice. 

The activities you derive pleasure from can be anything as long as you are PRESENT & use your creativity & body: 

- Spending time in the nature 

- Deep meditation 

- Doing sports activities with other men or solo 

- Dancing 

- Singing 

- Creating art 

- Eating something really delicious 

- Etc. 

- and of course… Self-pleasure. More on that below. 

What’s interesting is that because pleasure is a second chakra “by-product” (area of the genitals) & that is also the center that corresponds to emotions, men who grew up cut off from their emotional center (aka the majority of men in our society) are also cut off from their pleasure - which leads them to crave & obsess about it & need it from women.

So pleasure becomes about “hungry taking” rather than gifting & revering. 

Next time you pleasure yourself, try to notice consciously where your mind goes. It will most likely go into a fantasy of another, maybe your partner wearing sexy lingerie, or maybe a porn star you admire or a hot threesome scene that brings you so much excitement. 

And nothing is wrong with fantasy - it’s super amazing, if it’s used to bring some spice once in a while. Fantasy especially tends to get activated when in a new relationship with someone you really like. 

However, when fantasy is always there, the brain becomes solely dependent on it. 

So staying present within your body & tracking subtle felt senses during self pleasure will gradually change the wiring & activate your ability to naturally take pleasure from your body alone! 

This is how you begin developing the pathway to feeling your body, being in control of it, experiencing full body energy orgasms, & lasting super long! 😉

Much Love, Iryna