A Story of One Man Who Never Became My Client

Hey there,

This man was referred to me by my very dear client. 

When he got on video Zoom with me, I thought, I can't believe this man has difficulties attracting women. He is good-looking, well-spoken, and successful, and he shared with me that he has no sexual issues at all (at least the women he has been with never complained, as he expressed it). His energy was so attractive to me. 

After 15 minutes into our conversation, he revealed to me that a night before our call, he had had an epiphany that he was worthy and fully deserving of the most epic relationship with an incredible woman. He had an embodied sense (like he felt this clearly in his body) that he was enough and more than enough for what he desired in his life. He expressed it with so much glee and joy. It finally daunted him after many years of having this limited belief of not feeling good enough or worthy that he is good. He was lit up. I could feel that a huge weight came off his shoulders.

This man did not need my support. I thought to myself. He needed a reflection back on how GREAT he truly is. A celebration of him. 

This man was in his 10th year of recovery from alcohol and drug abuse. He has done more inner work than any average human would to redeem himself from that experience. And finally, just an evening before our call, he had had a profound insight that landed in his whole body that he was good, healed, that there was nothing wrong with him, that he was perfect the way he was. That the women he was attracting were his exact match. They were phenomenal, like he is. However, they would not stay in a relationship with him for some reason. And it was all because he sincerely believed he was not good enough. Or he was so good for those women that they would get repelled and flee, unable to receive him. So this core wound would play its game until he questioned it, and after some last drips of reflection, those last antiquated pieces of the belief fell off. 


And he said with a smile:  "I am sorry. I just realized this yesterday, right before our call. And I don't think I need help at this point." 

I smiled back and celebrated him hard. 

What I was trying to share with you here was that sometimes we do "the work" and go through the healing process, and it seems never-ending and tedious, and nothing works, and you can't seem to nail your desired outcome. And one day, something shifts, the switch turns on, and boom - an embodied felt sense enters your body - I get it now. "I am good," - you say to yourself with glee. 

Or you do nothing but have an inherent belief, a feeling that you are enough, perfect as you are. Because you are. Your being is a gift. Your unique nature is a gift. And you don't need to do anything to change it, prove it, or polish it in any way. 

What you really need is a community/people who would genuinely reflect back to you your greatness. And celebrate the shit out of you. 

Allow these people to enter your life. I could be one of those cheerleaders for you as well. 

If you are open and ready to question some huge beliefs in your life and ready for a deep dive,I’d love to meet with you. For you gentlemen who are on a journey of sexual awakening, sexual liberation, and ownership of your sexual power, and you desire support, if you are at the point that you know support is necessary, I would love to meet with you. Schedule a free 30 minute consultation here.

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Much love and gratitude,

Iryna