Your "Nice Guy" Is not Attractive in the Bedroom

Hey there

I was thinking the other day that the majority of male clients, and not only clients but men in general, who I attract, have "a nice guy" syndrome. My partner is a recovering "nice guy" :) 

There is a theory I have behind this. My dharma, my purpose in life, is to empower humans on their sexuality journey. Awakening my own sexual potential has given me a tremendous amount of power, confidence in who I truly am, freedom to lead an authentic life, and love for myself. Obviously, my journey still continues because one's sexual potential is so vast that there is no limit to what one can experience. And that is what I want my clients to realize or remember. 

And for men - I want them to connect to their sex center as a power center with no shame or guilt but rather with reverence, sacredness, and approval of their wild animal self, their beast. 

What does it have to do with a "nice guy" syndrome? Well, most nice guys abandon their power, shame it, and disapprove of their "dangerous" side of themselves. Why? Because the dangerous guy is very much connected to his anger. Anger is deemed a bad emotion in our society. 

Our society favors people pleasers and shames those who speak their truth. It doesn't mean that everyone must act out on their anger and speak their raw truth unabashedly. 

I am saying that there needs to be a very conscious relationship to your anger, power, and truth. There needs to be a balance between your heart (compassion/kindness) and your sex center (power/anger). And that takes some healing, some clearing of old beliefs, and forgiveness of yourself. 


Why do you want all of that? Because women want to get ravished by you, and they will always choose a dangerous guy over a nice guy. A nice guy will be in a friend's zone. It is what we feel naturally as women; it's biology. And even if a woman tells you otherwise, subconsciously, she desires hot, obliterated wild sex with a very dominant (but heart-centered) man. She will get wet for that kind of a man. 


I highly recommend a great book to read to explore your "nice guy" syndrome within you (if, of course, you feel like you have him inside)  - "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover. 

And if you want to go deeper, work with me 1:1 or join my men's course Presence over Performance.
The online course for men, which you can do at your own pace, has five modules containing teaching materials and all my potent self-pleasure practices and meditations on helping you, gentlemen, to connect deeper to your body, heal performance anxiety, and be a masterful lover in the bedroom. Module 5 has both P@ssy and C@ck Massage practices that you and your partner can totally have fun learning from and introducing into your lovemaking sessions. 
So, if you are struggling with PE, ED, being present in the bedroom, and needing more confidence - this offer is golden for you.

"Presence over Performance" 

Enjoy! 

Much love and gratitude,

Iryna