TO A MAN, HER OPENNESS MEANS THE WORLD

Hey there,

Men want to feel WELCOMED by a woman they are with, whether on a date or during an intimate moment.

Let me share with you a personal memory that really illuminated this for me.

My partner and I weren’t living together at the time. During the week, living by myself, I would start my days with my self care practices of meditation and breathwork. Then one morning when we woke up together, I learned how I had blinders on when it came to opening and closing my heart.

We woke up, and I stated that I was going to do my morning routine. I just stated it as a fact - with an underlining message behind it that seemed obvious to me: “If you feel like it, please join”. I really did want him to join.

But later on my partner shared with me: “It would have felt so much better if you’d said it differently. If you invited me into your morning routine. If you’d said, I’ll be doing my morning practices this morning and I’d love for you to join me.”

He wants to be invited into my activity. He feels welcomed, he feels desired. He actually feels my OPENNESS to him. And he will much rather DO with excitement and willingness what I actually desire for him to do.

Energetic openness and receptivity is the key element that is often missing on the part of a woman and desired by the man in a man/woman dynamic.

(There are multitudes of reasons for the women’s closure: lack of trust, residue of resentment from whatever past experience with this man or men in general, past wounds, etc.)

One of the main desires of my partner at the time was that when he arrives to my place I meet him at the door with open arms and a smile, happy to see him.

Did I always want to grant his wish? Not always.

But this unfolding happens on a moment to moment basis, with conscious intention poured into it.

So I connect to what feels true in my body and in our relationship and try to be open, even if that openness feels like sadness in my heart.

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Much love and gratitude,

Iryna