STRUGGLING TO GET HARD? RIDE YOUR RESISTANCE INTO RAPTURE.

Hey handsome,

This morning I really resisted going to a yoga class. I have been doing yoga for 10 years and every time I get on the mat in the beginning of a class, I long for it to end. I can't wait to be done with it. I resist it so much.

Why am I telling you this?

Well, to share that I am the most resistant person I ever met - and also that resistance is my biggest teacher. And it could be for you, too.

During my yoga class I am forced to be with myself, with what I feel in the moment moving from pose to pose, from breath to breath. And I feel a lot. Today for example I felt guilt, because last night my child wouldn't sleep and I was so frustrated with him - and today I feel guilty about that frustration. Oh... and guilt feels so so awful.

You want to escape this feeling, disassociate, think of your to-do list instead.

But I also know better. I know that this guilty feeling will build up and haunt me forever. And so I moved on my mat, breathing all the way through and feeling this gunky feeling.

I know that if I allow myself to do something to move through resistance, at least for a minute, I'm rewarded with so much goodness on the other side.

Do you resonate?

How can this be applied to sexuality?

Well, next time you notice that you have difficulty getting hard, and are trying to figure out the problem, getting more and more stuck in your head, or you resort to a fantasy or a pill…

Perhaps spend an hour feeling that feeling you've been resisting feeling for a while. It may be guilt or shame or frustration, or maybe the opposite - joy.

You may be very pleasantly surprised what (literally) comes up on the other side.

And if you are looking to be supported more fully on your sexuality journey, because you have shame and anxiety around your "performance", you are addicted to fantasy and don't know how to get it up any other way, are addicted to porn, have disconnected from your partner and don't know how to engage with her any more - I invite you to join my online course - "Presence over Performance"!

Dedicated to supporting you in becoming the most amazing lover and man she craves for.

Much love and gratitude,

Iryna