Masterful Love Beyond Size: What Truly Matters in Sex
Hey,
I’d love to share with you today an extract written by one of my teachers Max Marmer.
I feel that this piece brilliantly describes what truly matters in s/x and what a man should focus on to become a masterful lover.
What Max shares hugely resonates with my philosophy and it is what I teach to my male clients as well.
Here it is. I hope you will find it insightful.
“*C0ck Size Insecurities & Being Great At S/x*
Size is such a small portion of what matters.
Certain men may be incompatible with certain women due to how their genitalia are shaped but 95% of the time the misalignment and incompatiblity has nothing to due with the physical genitalia.
Being a great lover is primarily about mastery over subtle energy. It is a journey of mastery over self and other.
Sex includes and transcends the whole multidimensional nature of soma, psyche, soul and spirit. It is a fractal reflection of a person's physical, emotional, mental and spiritual development.
For a man, the higher developmental path includes these skills:
Physically: ejaculatory control; he should train so his ejaculatory reflex is fully under his conscious control. He should come only when he’s taken her where he wants to take her (want - emerging not from the ego/mind but from deep intuitive gnosis).
Emotionally: he should clear past trauma and connect his heart and cock. His sex should be full of love.
Mentally: he should be present, not in the past or future.
Spiritually: he should channel his higher self and God/the Divine through his sex, or the full depth of his spiritual capacity at present.
Relationally, the primary skill is subtle energy attunement.
Generally, a man great in life areas like massage or dance will be a great lover but there can be plenty of blockages and impediments within his physical, emotional, mental, spiritual field that make that not so.
Music shares so much in common with sex. Learning to play both her body and your own body like a musical instrument is where the best (most transcendent, loving, reality shattering) sex is found.
She doesn’t care about size as much as she cares about where you can take her energetically, within herself and within the realms.
A man with sexual mastery can give a woman more pleasure, ecstasy and transcendent love filled experiences with his hands and mouth than an ordinary man with a porn sized cock.
She cares about how you make her feel. Size can help and is generally preferred by women amongst ordinary men because all they have is the physical dimension (they have no subtle energy mastery, presence or love moving their cock).
So size is really the least important factor relative to all the other factors at play in great sex and a man being a great lover.
Sex is about the alchemical dance of the masculine and feminine between them and within each of them.
The physical biology plays a small role in great sex but mainstream society sure is fantastic at getting both men and women in their head and insecure about their bodies instead of developing self-love, and energetic mastery, power and potency.
Developing sexual mastery is an essential part of the path of Self-Development and Self-Realization for both man and woman. “ - Max Marmer
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Much love and gratitude,
Iryna