HOW TO HAVE MORE SEX WITH YOUR WIFE {CLIENT SUCCESS STORY}

Hey handsome,

What an inspiring story! I’m so excited to share this with you.

In the words of my client:

“I found Iryna because I wanted to have sex more often with my wife. But it went way beyond that. Iryna guided me through a process of self-discovery and a profound change in the way I understand a woman and I see myself as a man.

I now know that the major fights my wife had with me were caused by a feeling that she couldn't trust her man to protect her, in whatever sphere it was. And that, my friends, was the root cause of a lot of confusion in my relationship and my declining sexual life with my so loved wife.

Coming again (no pun intended) my wife and I had always had a hot, intense, and satisfying sexual life. Not even financial hardship or pregnancy disturbed it. In fact, I experienced the best bj's of my life during her pregnancy, OMG, was she good at it... We were always connected and instinctively found new ways to keep our intimacy going.

With time we started arguing more often. Actually, she did. I was most of the time puzzled thinking why was she so mad and frustrated.

I haven't been raised as a protector type of a man. And the absence of this quality in my relationship took its toll. Don't take me wrong, I am not a wimp. I have protected and fought (sometimes even physically) for my kids over the years but one main thing was missing. I missed recognizing my wife's soft spots and failed to protect them as I should in my man's role.

She's a very strong woman. She had to grow strong to shield her heart from her father, who hurt her multiple times when she had an open heart towards him. This strength also misled me to think she didn't want or needed my role of protecting and shielding her. Oh boy, how wrong I was. That was precisely what she needed most from me. Exactly because her nature is so feminine and she had to put on this masculine role to protect herself while confronting her dad.

Now I’m in my own way there for her, to fulfill that role. She needs and deserves it. If I do it right, she won't need to be anything and will be free to be herself.

After I understood this, I started to change my behavior - and immediately after, she started changing too. She's been doing more nature-related activities. She's been singing more and listening to more music. She started gardening. She's lighter and looks brighter.

Also, as a positive consequence, her PMS is not nearly as bad anymore. She goes through it without the previous rage. Probably because she doesn't need to be "a chief war strategist" while being the goddess of our home. On this matter, I had been following my wife's menstrual cycle for the last 10 years. Mainly because I didn't want to be frustrated by her bad mood during PMS, and knowing she was on that period would help me to cope with it, not to take it personally. I monitored her cycle to protect myself. Now I do it for other reasons. Understanding the cycle of a woman gives you a glimpse of the depth and richness of her being.

Looking into a woman's soul is as mesmerizing as observing nature. The peacefulness of a rainy morning in the forest, the strength of a hurricane, the comfort of the snow falling slowly from the sky, the transformation of the land through winter, spring, summer, and fall. A woman is a nature in its purest form.

I feel honored and privileged to have my wife in my life. Understanding and helping her be, makes me a better man, for her, for myself and the world.

Iryna, you've guided me through this process with such kindness and empathy. You have, despite never having met my wife, changed her life through me. The same holds true about my children and at a certain level, about all the women and men that I work with and influence.

My eternal gratitude for you. I am not done. I am in for the journey.”

- Rob

Wow! And all it took for the transformation to take place for this man was three sessions within the time frame of six weeks.

Perhaps this story reminds you of your situation. Perhaps you are as puzzled as Rob was, asking yourself why you and your wife don’t have more sex and more fulfilling intimacy. You are all in - and she is barely there. It’s really frustrating. You feel bad pressuring her, so you retreat to watching porn and masturbating, or seeing sex workers, or maybe burying your sexual life completely. But it never is satisfying.

You see, I help men not only with skills, techniques, and sharing “secrets” on what women get off on. The most significant part of my work is helping men understand what their blind spots are, and what is hidden in their subconscious that impedes them from being the best version of themselves - and not only sexually, but in all aspects of their lives.

Rob wasn’t showing up for his wife and family in their family affairs. He was making money and providing financially. But all the decisions were made by his wife. She took on this role because somewhere in the process of living life together, he stepped away from it.

I’m not saying men should always have it together and be strong and responsible decision-makers and providers at all times. Not at all.

What I am saying is that when a woman lives in the masculine role for a long period of time, she starts losing her feminine desires. And sexuality dwindles first.

She is stressed out by the tasks that of course she can do, but doing them all the time feels heavy for her and takes up a lot of energy. She might not even recognize this consciously. If you bring it up to her, she might say that things are fine.

So what can you do?

Recognize where you are in your life, where you haven’t been taking full responsibility, where you haven’t been showing up for your family. Reflect. And then once you find those pieces, begin a slow process of making deliberate changes.

Take off a load of masculine tasks from your woman. Step up.

Make her life easier, and not by sending her to spas or encouraging her to go out with friends. She will eventually do that herself, once the load of work she’s been taking on will be off her shoulders because you took it onto yours.

She’ll begin feeling soft again. She’ll relax. She’ll trust you and will feel safe and secure with you.

This will create more space for play, for feminine desire to arise, for passion to return. She will naturally fall back into her nature and will initiate intimacy sooner than you anticipate.

Once you begin changing from within, everyone around you will start changing too.

Also, it’s very important to understand that your woman must take full responsibility for her own happiness, openness and awakening . You can’t force it on her. But you can do your part.

If you want my support and guidance to gain clarity and unravel the blind spots, I’m available for 1-on-1 coaching. Schedule a free 30 min introductory session to learn the details.

I can't wait to chat!

Much love and gratitude,

Iryna