ATTENTION IS YOUR MOST VALUABLE CURRENCY

Attention is your most valuable currency.

This struck me when one of my teachers - OM Rupani - posted about it. And then I experienced this with my partner in a more distinct way.

As a woman, I will respond to a man who offers me his undivided attention (or PRESENCE, which I wrote about previously).

When a man holds his attention on me, I feel seen, heard & held and my interest towards this man deepens. He doesn’t even have to say anything.

If I feel his attention waver, if he is shifting it elsewhere during our conversation, dinner, or intimacy (during intimacy especially!), it will sting my heart. I will actually have a physical sensation similar to sharpness in my chest when his attention isn’t there with me.

My trust fades away, I don’t feel safe & eventually, it will result in me being closed off & resentful.

And it won’t even be what he said.

So many men have their attention who knows on what & where - stuck in their heads, thinking of the next best move to make, on the future or dwelling in the past.

It’s frustrating. Before I became the woman I am today and learned how to hold myself in love, I would start internalizing & feeling that it might be something going on with me. I would feel off & anxious, not fully understanding that this unpleasant feeling in my chest just happened in response to a man who wasn’t there with me.

And so I invite you, gentlemen, to practice being conscious with your attention. Make a commitment to play with it for one day. Practice it with your kids, with your friends, your co-workers. Bring your full attention, your full presence. And notice what happens.

Experiment with this with your woman. Take her on a date, and be on your phone, be in your head, think of work, etc. & see how she reacts. And then switch. Focus your attention to 50% on her & 50% on yourself. Feel your body, slow everything down, slow down your movements, your speech, breathe more, maintain eye contact, & watch her. Pause when you talk, genuinely enjoy her, smile, be seductive & playful. Tune into the thought that there is nowhere you would rather be, but here with her. And notice the switch in her energy....

I guarantee there will be more aliveness coming your way in response to your attention.

I am curious to know how it goes for you. Feel free to share and let me know!

A great place to do so is my men's FB group "Conscious & Confident" - a safe space to share & discuss all things sex, love, relationship, women, conscious loving & living!

Looking forward to having you as a new member!

And if you wish to know about my 1-on-1 coaching for men, please feel free to book a FREE 30 min consultation.

Much Love & Gratitude,

Iryna