Three Things You Can Do to Build Your Confidence
Hi there,
I know you love straightforward and easy-to-apply "how-to" tips, so here are the three that I find the most effective in building your confidence with women.
Confidence is the inner state that you cultivate daily. Similar to building your biceps or a six-pack. A daily ritual of going to the gym and doing those reps will one day give you the result you desire.
So, the confidence is the same. You just have to let go of your mind when you are about to take those actions towards building that confidence muscle. Your mind is this cute little gremlin that will always try to convince you to stay small and never get out of your comfort zone.
So when resistance arises, recognize it, speak to your little gremlin in a kind, accepting voice, and then move on to those three actions I am about to share with you.
If you do these three, you sure will have a six-pack confidence in a month or so. :)
1. Stack your wins! Men must collect evidence of what they think is a win for them in life. And it doesn't matter if those wins directly refer to sex life or not. Collect the wins you have in your business, dating, relationship, money, material possessions, character traits - all of these can count as wins. But they must be true for you, not your parents, cousins, friends, wife, etc. Have this be your daily morning practice of gathering 5-10 wins. Speak them out loud to yourself, write them on your phone when you have your morning coffee, or journal them.
2. Create an Archetype/Identity of a confident man who you know can get you the results you want. Become this man, act like him, walk and talk like him, be him daily. Examples of the archetypes could be - Confident and Conscious Man, Sex God, King, Limitless Worrior, Dominant Knight, Powerful Seducer, etc. You can play with what fits you and your particular flavor. Take examples of the characters from your favorite movies (James Bond, for example). First, meditate on all those traits you think and want this Archetype to have; write those down, including how he moves, talks, what he says, and the activities he engages in. The more specific you are, the better. And then, once you have it, put on "his suit" and play his role. Wake up daily and step into his shoes. The more you play his role, the more energy you give him, the more real he will become. Yes, it is a bit of acting and faking in the beginning. But that is the whole point - you are the creator of your life, and you can have anything you want and become anyone you want. Believe it.
3. Daily embodiment practice. What I mean by this is that you must engage in some physical activity that gives you energy, shifts your brain chemistry from negative to positive, and elevates your state. Walking, running, yoga, martial arts, dance, etc. Anything that you genuinely love and can do daily. Add self-pleasure to it as a bonus, and you will feel extra potent and confident.
So here! Three very simple things that you can choose to do daily to cultivate your inner confidence as a man!
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With Love and Gratitude,
Iryna