THE ONLY THING SHE TRULY NEEDS TO OPEN UP TO YOU
Hey handsome,
If you asked me what the number one thing is that profoundly impacted my ability to open up to men sexually and emotionally, I would say - SAFETY! And I don't mean physical safety. I mean emotional safety.
The depth into which I've been able to let myself go has always correlated with how much a man could be present with his mind, heart, and genitals.
I have always yearned in my partnerships to open and deepen and surrender, and only with a certain quality of presence from a man would I feel safe to go there.
What does this mean in actuality?
It means that when I come to my man with the bigness of my emotions and share my vulnerable heart - he sees and feels me. He doesn't try to fix me and problem-solve my situation. He is present with all his masculine essence and loving heart to hold what is there.
It means that when we have sex, and I wail so hard the neighbors can hear it, or I am in a blissful experience, he is in all of it, too. He doesn't move from any of it but welcomes it all. He truly sees me.
It means that when I come to him and share how I feel about his withdrawal from me, his lack of presence in some moments, the choices he's made for us, or his not-so-attuned touch of my body, he listens, with his whole body, and doesn't fall into his smallness or shame, but is there to receive me in my pain.
It means he doesn't please me to make me feel better; he doesn't engage in my emotional anger or rage. He is faithful to himself, his core, and his boundaries. And when he is this way - I trust him even more! His solidity in himself, his beingness, and his actions make me feel safe, make me respect him, and trust him.
So how can you create safety for your female partner, beginning today?
It starts with your inner work.
It’s a tall order. But I assure you that if you start with a consistent practice of at least 10 minutes a day, of cultivating deeper presence with yourself first (this means disciplining your mind and really becoming aware of yourself and your feelings; meditation can help with this) - she will notice.
And if you desire my support, please reach out.
I offer 1:1 coaching with me for six months and a one-year-long journey. Book a FREE 30-minute connection call now to learn more and see if we are aligned to work together.
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Much love and gratitude,
Iryna