Sexuality is Seasonal
Sexuality is not supposed to be always hot and wild and orgasmic when you are having sex several times a week/day and coming together every time!!!
Sexuality is fluid and ever-changing.
It is almost like seasons in nature as we know them. When there is “winter,” there is a desire for the energy to go inward, for conserving and resourcing, for hibernating.
When it’s “summer,” the desire is for more luscious, wild, and adventurous experiences.
By the way, the seasons of each person’s sexuality don’t have to correspond to the actual seasons of nature. They may, though.
In our society, though, which is so performance and “summer” season oriented in everything, including sexuality, it is very easy to feel pressure to perform, act, and push yourself, which ultimately can result in feeling shame if the body doesn’t cooperate. And I won’t lie; I was the victim of such pressure, too, especially as a sex coach.
This is true, by the way, for both men and women.
And so what I wanted to offer here in this e-mail is a perspective of looking at your sexual life through a bigger lens of Life itself, which is always evolving and shifting. While simultaneously allowing yourself to heal the kinks and limited beliefs around sexuality, moving towards wholeness.
My masterclass on the "Female Anatomy of Arousal" is filling up! It’s a masterclass for men about women. Sign up if you feel called. It’s on February 19th @ 5:30 pm PST/8:30 pm EST.
Much love and gratitude,
Iryna