IF YOU REALLY WANT TO UNDERSTAND YOUR WOMAN - LEARN TO TRACK HER CYCLE
I have a client who's been tracking his wife's cycle for 10 years, since she gave birth to their second child.
And it literally saved their intimacy and their relationship.
No one teaches us, women and men, about what it feels like, on emotional, physical, and spiritual levels, for a woman to go through her menstrual cycle each month.
Only in the last 5 years have mainstream outlets like Cosmopolitan begun to write about menstruation. The topic is becoming less taboo to talk about.
Luckily, slowly but surely, menstrual cycle awareness is increasing in the psyches of women and society overall.
We now have a number of apps that are designed to track female cycles. If you do not have one for your partner, I highly recommend downloading one.
What I am leading to here...
I would like to share with you something really valuable that will not only help you understand your female partner better emotionally and energetically, but will also offer you more insight on:
- what's the best time to engage with your woman sexually,
- when to ask for your needs to be met,
- when to bring up challenging relationship decisions,
- when to be most supportive and helpful,
- and when to give her space to be alone.
All you need to do is to track her cycle... and know this....
Did you know that your woman goes through four inner seasons each month in her cycle? Yes, we women go through winter, spring, summer, and autumn, all in one month. She might not even know this herself. But it is literally, physiologically, what happens in her body.
I learned a lot about this from the book "Wild Power” written by A.Pope & S. Wurlitzer. It is a brilliant book. And I highly recommend it. It helped me tremendously with navigating my cycle.
Note that each woman's experience is unique to her. That's why tracking is so important and noticing what she is going through during each season is paramount. (Her diet, her stress level, her health, kids or no kids - all these variables also matter).
Below I describe the inner seasons, mapping them out for you based on my own experience.
Winter: when she is bleeding (approx. day 27 - day 5)
Time of introspection - she is going inwards. Time of deep rest and doing nothing. Self-care is crucial in this season. Ideally, no kids around. She needs space. Offering support, taking over household chores, massaging her feet, asking if there is anything you can do to help is great during this time. Even if she feels action-oriented, I recommend you take care of the mundane things. It's the time for her needs to be met. Making love is not an option unless she asks for it.
Spring: approx. day 6 to day 11
Rebirth. More energy is emerging - she is still very vulnerable though. It is a time of hope, time of experimenting, and taking more risks. She wants to be social. She wants you to give her compliments, as she is finding herself more attractive. She is full of ideas and would love to do something new. Offer to take her out on a date, surprise her with a gift. Be heart-centered, as it is the time of romanticizing her and playing.
Summer: when she is ovulating (approx. day 12 - day 19)
Energetic peak. She is going outwards. She is focusing on mothering and taking care of others. And she is showing up fully in her work. Her needs don't matter that much. She feels like a superwoman conquering the world. She wants to have sex every day all day with you and experiment in the wildest of ways. This is the time for you to ask to have your needs met. This is the time for you to bring up something that is important for you to discuss. She is the sweetest and loveliest towards you. She showers you with love, gives you massages, blow jobs, and a delicious dinner.
Autumn: approx. day 20 - day 26
Her energy level drops. She all of a sudden feels sad, or just not good about herself. Her inner critic starts to run the show. She starts getting introspective. This is a very intuitive time for a woman. She might have visions and deep insights. It's time for you to listen to her. And never take things personally. Because she might say some not very nice things about you. She might even be repelled and annoyed by you. (It all depends on how good you were in other seasons). She just has a very low tolerance for bullshit. It might seem to you like she isn’t making any sense. Your jokes aren't funny anymore, and she cries if you, God forbid, say something insensitive. She's entering cosmic realms and her consciousness is called to serve something greater than the physical. She might be deeply poetic and creative. Ask her if she needs support, listening, or to be left alone. She might not be sure herself - but ask anyway. Sex might be amazing here especially right before entering into winter, as it can be very healing for her.
And voila!
Now you have a road map to your woman's emotional, sexual, and spiritual world!
Isn't it what all men want? Understand a woman?
Menstrual cycle awareness, in my humble opinion, is a missing key!
Much love, Iryna